Proverbs 19:14 Houses and wealth are inherited from parents,
but a prudent wife is from the Lord.
I continue to be amazed at the attitude many men have toward women, and at the radical feminism that has arisen in reaction to that. Both cause great damage, to individuals and to society as a whole. A balanced Biblical perspective sees men and women as certainly different, but as mutually complementary and essential. I tell couples that marriage is a journey of discovery, because neither gender can really imagine what the other is like with any reliable accuracy. God made us this way and then instituted marriage, because a single individual would have to be divine to encompass all the good characteristics of both men and women. Life-long singles have without question contributed to society, but they are certainly the exception, and require a special gift from God to be successful. God intends gender friction for the benefit of both, on more levels that we generally realize. It is precisely the fundamental nature of gender and marriage that makes the devil attack it in every way he can. He has been all too successful, which makes it all the more important for every believer to submit to God and resist the devil. (James 4:7)
It is very interesting that this would be the first verse that hits my eyes this morning, when I was just thinking about my incredible wife. Most of my “inheritance” from my parents (the Japanese says “ancestors”) is intangible, though of far more ultimate value than tangible things, but I certainly agree that an exceptional wife is from the Lord. In the 46 years, so far, of our marriage, there have been long periods when she was far closer to the Lord than I was. She has always been an influence to draw me closer to Him, all the while being lively and a lot of fun. When I do marriage counseling I point out to the husband that when it says in Genesis 2:18, “I will make a helper suitable for him,” it is using an extreme word for “helper” that is otherwise used in the Bible only for military help or God’s direct help. In other words, a wife’s presence is huge. It is interesting to consider whether Solomon wrote this particular proverb or whether it came from some other source, because his wives were his undoing! It has been said that “Behind every successful man there is a woman,” but from a Biblical perspective that would be an understatement. The Bible records history accurately, and historically speaking, women have all too often been considered inferior to men, property to be utilized, but the loss to society, and specifically to men, in that attitude is incalculable. I am to treat my wife as the treasure she is, giving her all the joy, peace, respect, and honor I can, because she is more than worthy of it all, and more.
Father, thank You indeed for the wife You gave me. Many who know her are in awe of her as she continues to be incredibly productive and a blessing to all around her even while dealing with quite a laundry list of physical problems. I do ask Your grace and blessing for her today, and specifically relief from the pain that is all too familiar to her. Give her wisdom in what to do and what to let someone else do, or just let ride, so as not to have unnecessary pain. May today be not only a day of accomplishment for her – hardly a day passes that isn’t that – but a day of peace and joy, for Your glory. Thank You. Praise God!