Proverbs 18:24 One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin,
but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
The writer couldn’t have imagined it, but it just struck me that this applies to social media. There are many today who live for how many followers and likes they can get, and they destroy themselves in the process. The epidemic of destructive behavior in young people is rooted in this. When we get our dopamine hits electronically, we give up part of our humanity in the process. Backing off a bit, and in line with the context when this was written, evaluating your self-worth on the basis of your social interactions is destructive even when there are no electronics involved. There have been people like that throughout history, and they are frankly pathetic, even when they are famous and wealthy. It is certainly possible to have a human friend who is closer than blood kin, but the ultimate illustration of this verse is Jesus Christ. That He expressly called His disciples friends, in John 15:15, is problematic in Japanese culture, because the concept of “friend” has a strong feeling of equality, and no one is Jesus’ equal. I have heard a Japanese Christian insist, in spite of that verse, that Jesus could have no friends. Every culture has points that are unbiblical! In spite of that man’s opinion, the best-known Christian hymn in Japan is What a Friend We Have in Jesus. Part of that familiarity is because different, secular lyrics were set to that tune and it was sung in Japanese schools for many years, but even the Christian lyrics are familiar to many. Perhaps one reason for its acceptance is that the average Japanese doesn’t necessarily accept Jesus as divine. We get the full benefit only when we recognize that Jesus is indeed divine, but He lowered Himself to our level in order to become our Savior, as is set out so beautifully in Philippians 2:5-11. As it says there, He considered us to be worth letting go of His divinity in order to be our friend indeed. Human friends are important, but when we have Jesus, He is more than enough.
I am blessed with several men I would call close friends, but none are as close as Jesus! After all, He put His Spirit in me, and I can fellowship with Him anywhere and everywhere, all the time. I am to be a friend to people, but not “pin my world” on them. I have hurt people, and people have hurt me, but Jesus has never let me down. It is when I rest in Him that His character is manifested in me, and I am able to be the friend that people around me need. In common with most men, in contrast to women, I don’t have many close friends, but I do have some, and I am grateful. Right now I am being called on to be a friend to my genetic brother, and that isn’t a position I’ve been in for many years. I need to let Jesus speak and act through me in this situation, certainly. I don’t have the wisdom to say and do the right thing at the right time, but God will guide me, and I need to be sensitive and obedient to Him. Meanwhile, I need to be an extension of Jesus, so to speak, to all the people around me, for His glory.
Father, thank You for this reminder. Help me indeed listen and act obediently at all times, so that I may be Your servant, Your agent, for the blessing of many and for Your glory. Thank You. Praise God!